Qn 1 n only: when you're having trouble in a relationship what do you do?
a. Step aside and talk it out calmly.
b. Tear up his photos, his letters and thrash his room. (in extreme cases his voodoo doll will be your next best friend.)
c. Throw yourself at him. (ie be clingy, whiny etc..aka the stereotypical irritating boo)
d. Put the relationship aside for a while so that he has time to regret his decision. ie he has time to realize he's been taking u for granted.
nb: your whole problem is basically his fault --> if this changed ur answer at all.
nb2: i'm not the one with the problem. =)
my ans: (d).
but that's just my answer, in theory it would be a great thing to do. i mean the guy's the one with the problem anyway, you should just temporarily brush your hands off him for a while suchthat he sees how much he really needs you. this works like 99% of the time especially if you've been in a really long relationship coz
A. no one can get used to not being single again immediately. and
B. People by nature want what they can't have. so u gotta create that illusion.
of coz if this works, ur separation would only be a temporal thing. it's a small price to pay for long term happiness.
however, if after this the guy still doesn't want u back, then he's just not worth having in the first place coz if he's not drawn back by the above reasons, there should be enough guilt to last him 17 lifetimes. this could be a contributing factor.
i know some people would have said option (a). this has been a tried and tested method, it really doesn't work. The message just doesn't get across to their thick heads. this is not an assumedfact either. did u know that guys by nature really literally do have thicker skin than girls? that's y they're usually oilier than girls (fact of the day).
girl-involved's ans: (c).
this is so not good. it doesn't only not work 99.999% of the time, it only makes him repel u more! and that is the last thing u want isn't it? if he's already doing something wrong in the first place, y should you be the one trying to make it up to him so called. he should be the one doing the work! also, when he's in the wrong and u find out about it, you are in no fault at all. however, if u start throwing urself at him, u're just inviting criticism.
but then again i think it's probably just a case of the passer-by having a clearer view of things as compared to the person involved. and also, responses vary from person to person so u really can't set a standard way of judging a problem. theory isn't very good when applied to reality anyway like econs.
yea so anyway i just spent half a lect blogging on this. i so did not hear anything the lecturer said! argh.....!!!!
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- Tuesday, February 15, 2005 @ 11:19 AM
Qn 1 n only: when you're having trouble in a relationship what do you do?
a. Step aside and talk it out calmly. b. Tear up his photos, his letters and thrash his room. (in extreme cases his voodoo doll will be your next best friend.) c. Throw yourself at him. (ie be clingy, whiny etc..aka the stereotypical irritating boo) d. Put the relationship aside for a while so that he has time to regret his decision. ie he has time to realize he's been taking u for granted. nb: your whole problem is basically his fault --> if this changed ur answer at all. nb2: i'm not the one with the problem. =) my ans: (d). but that's just my answer, in theory it would be a great thing to do. i mean the guy's the one with the problem anyway, you should just temporarily brush your hands off him for a while suchthat he sees how much he really needs you. this works like 99% of the time especially if you've been in a really long relationship coz A. no one can get used to not being single again immediately. and B. People by nature want what they can't have. so u gotta create that illusion. of coz if this works, ur separation would only be a temporal thing. it's a small price to pay for long term happiness. however, if after this the guy still doesn't want u back, then he's just not worth having in the first place coz if he's not drawn back by the above reasons, there should be enough guilt to last him 17 lifetimes. this could be a contributing factor. i know some people would have said option (a). this has been a tried and tested method, it really doesn't work. The message just doesn't get across to their thick heads. this is not an assumedfact either. did u know that guys by nature really literally do have thicker skin than girls? that's y they're usually oilier than girls (fact of the day). girl-involved's ans: (c). this is so not good. it doesn't only not work 99.999% of the time, it only makes him repel u more! and that is the last thing u want isn't it? if he's already doing something wrong in the first place, y should you be the one trying to make it up to him so called. he should be the one doing the work! also, when he's in the wrong and u find out about it, you are in no fault at all. however, if u start throwing urself at him, u're just inviting criticism. but then again i think it's probably just a case of the passer-by having a clearer view of things as compared to the person involved. and also, responses vary from person to person so u really can't set a standard way of judging a problem. theory isn't very good when applied to reality anyway like econs. yea so anyway i just spent half a lect blogging on this. i so did not hear anything the lecturer said! argh.....!!!! |
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