i was reading about Marge Piercy's background while doing my lit presentation (which is in like 90 min by the way!) and she said that she always believed that the best relationships are those that start out as friends. she was good friends with her present hubby for seven looong years before they eventually fell in love and got married...now isn't that sweet?

i think it's true in a way. i mean..for example there was this guy who used to like me last time (not boasting..seriously..) before he even really knew me..and he was really awesomely nice!!! so you see since i knew him to be so nice at the start already, expectations were set..he marked them out himself..is it my fault that i expect so much from him as a friend?

so when he stopped liking me already, he kinda treated me like one of his other friends..unfortunately, not as nicely as before which is honestly not totally alright with me..coz to me, it's as if he's fallen short of what i thought he was, and that disappoints..don't get me wrong, i wasn't disappointed with the fact that he didn't like me already (i mean..hello..i'm not so yuck!)..but it was sort of a drifting away..a distancing..know what i mean?

so while all this was happening, he was really good friends with this other girl..and now..they're happily together!

that so goes to prove my point.

so why do people still pursue the love-at-first-sight phenomenon? is it all for the sake of romance? if two people really do fall in so-called love at first sight then there is a deprivation on both their parts on the true self of the other party. and as time wears on true colours cannot be hidden..not implying that one's true colours are actually bad..but majority of the time, there is inevitably sort of a fall from grace be it gradual or in bouts in the eyes of the other person.

so wat's the moral of the story? yea...it's quite obvious la...

i realized i'm rather cynical.

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